108. Stop Overthinking: 5 ADHD-Friendly Strategies to Make Decisions Simpler (for Busy SLPs)

Decision fatigue is real—especially for SLPs juggling full caseloads, families, and life. If you ever get stuck in analysis-paralysis (hello, overthinking tiny choices and the big ones), this episode is for you.

In today’s FB Live-turned-podcast-episode, I’m sharing a pretty major life decision I made and the five strategies I used to help me go from analysis-paralysis to bold, confident action.

Decision-making is one of the biggest things that comes up in coaching sessions. Whether it’s big, life-changing stuff or tiny daily choices that drain your brain, indecision kills your time and energy. So let’s make it simpler.

Here's what you'll learn:

✅ Why decision-making burns you out—and how to save your energy for what really matters

✅ My 5 go-to strategies

✅ How to stop overthinking the small stuff so you have brain space for the big stuff

✅ What to do after you make a decision so you don’t spiral in regret

If you’re ready to make choices with more clarity (and less time-wasting angst), you’re in the right place.

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Transcript

[00:00:00] Okie dokie. Hello. Live. I think I figured everything out. I am slowly getting better at the tech stuff with this Facebook Live. I think I figured out most of the [00:01:00] pieces of the puzzle. So, hi, I am here live. It is lunchtime here in New Jersey. And I, I'm having one of those days where I'm super hungry no matter what.

Like I just can't stop eating. So I have a half of a sandwich waiting for me after this Facebook Live and I'm very much looking forward to, I'm gonna try to ignore the growling stomach. But I am here to talk with you about decision making, and this is a topic that I have been thinking about a lot lately because we've had some pretty big, if you will, relatively speaking, big decisions that, um, have come up.

Personally, and you know, in our family this, these past seven, six-ish seven months, and decision making is something that [00:02:00] comes up so often in coaching calls with SLPs and OTs and PTs, where we often get stuck in this overthinking analysis paralysis mode that. Absolutely derails our time, our time management, our work life balance, our overall satisfaction, and I wanna offer some really tangible tips to help you if you ever find yourself getting stuck in decisions.

Okay. If you ever find yourself overthinking, if you ever find yourself, you know, um, maybe you can't even think about it. Maybe you know you have a decision to make and you can't even think about what you wanna do and how you wanna do it, right? If the, um, idea of making a [00:03:00] decision is overwhelming, okay.

That's where we're going today, and I'm excited about it because I'm gonna share, I'm gonna talk about this through the, the lens of a recent, one of those bigger decisions that we made as a family, um, just to sort of illustrate some of what we're talking about today. Okay? So if you're here live, say hi, or if you're watching the replay, say hello.

Um, it's always nice to have some feedback and I'm really hoping that the video quality is working on this. All right, well, we're just gonna go with it. I can always share this as a recording in the group. If for some reason the live is like, the quality is not up to par. All right, so let's dive in. Okay.

Sorry, frog in my throat. Okay, so one thing to keep in [00:04:00] mind. Before all of this, if you struggle with making decisions, I want you to know that there's nothing wrong with you, that you are not alone. This is human and decision fatigue is real. Especially for busy SLPs and clinicians, for parents, for high achievers, and I would be willing to bet that everyone in this group fits into one or more of those categories.

So let's talk about how to simplify decision-making without the overthinking, without the avoidance, and without worrying about what other people. Are gonna think. 'cause that's a big one too. Okay, so this is totally normal. Your brain only has so much decision making power in one day. And it's not the same for every person.

It's not the same, you know, from one day to the next. This [00:05:00] is, this is certainly going to vary, but making decision takes energy and we have to make so many decisions in the different roles that we play and. When we get stuck, we're wasting time and we are overthinking the small things so that we are not able to show up and work through the bigger things.

Okay. I, at my nature, tend to be an overthinker, but I have figured out. How to work with that and how to sort of put boundaries or guardrails in place so that when my brain starts to go into that overthinking mode, I can redirect it. So it's not about. Like having zero concern for what other people are gonna think.

It's not about trying to make quick, impulsive decisions and [00:06:00] um, you know, never struggling with making a decision ever again, or never having to take time to work through a decision that's not realistic. That's not what this is about. It's just about making it simpler and easier and reducing that tension.

Okay, so that. You can show up at work and at home in a way that you feel yourself and you feel good about. Okay. Alright, so I've got five strategies. Okay. And I'm gonna walk you through, well, first I'm gonna list. Each of them, and then I'm gonna walk you through each one and what it means. Okay. Before I do that though, I am going to share, uh, one of those big decisions that we made as a family earlier this year was to get a new puppy.

So I have four kids. They, I have twins that are nine. I have a 7-year-old and I have a 5-year-old. And my husband, um, is in the military. So he's not always, he's not around. All the time. [00:07:00] Um, there are times when he's gone for extended periods or there's, you know, long days and we already have a dog. We have a 10-year-old goldendoodle and I, for whatever reason, stopped home or stopped on my way home with one of my girls.

I stopped at the little puppy place in town. We've gone there before. I'm not. Necessarily like a over the top dog lover. I wouldn't say that I'm like a dog person and love dogs and all about dogs and blah, blah, blah. I wouldn't describe myself that way. Um, but we stopped there and we've stopped there before.

And every time we've gone in before, we make it very clear to the kids. This is like, we're just looking, we're killing time. When we would go in, it was because the car wash was right next door, and as we were waiting for the car to finish getting cleaned, we would pop over there and kill some time. And so we've done this before.

I don't have any attachment to [00:08:00] like, oh, you know, I'm gonna fall in love with one of these dogs. Or, how am I gonna tell my kids no, is this being mean? We've always set it up with very clear expectations and you know. Very clear boundaries. Well, we, when we went in that day, there was this one puppy that I was like so drawn to, and I, I can't explain it.

I've never felt that way, um, any of the other times that we've gone in. But like, something about this little puppy was like, you know, it was really just attached. So, long story short. I was like, I left there. We didn't leave with the dog, but I left there and I was like, I really want this dog. Like, what?

What's going on? This is out of character for me. Uh, I, I just dunno what to do, right? So I kept going over it and over it, my head and I, as I was making this [00:09:00] decision, I weighed. And it really wasn't just me making this, this was a, a decision I made with my husband, but, um, without the kids' knowledge. But I made use of these five strategies in order to help me make this decision.

Okay. So the first, uh, let me list out each five, uh, you know, each of the five, and then I'll, I'll break them down. So, strategy number one in no particular order, one of the strategies for making decisions is prioritizing your core values. Okay, we'll come back to this. Second strategy is doing a cost benefit analysis, third strategy, making sure that you have all the information that you need.

Fourth is noticing any tension and really getting curious about that tension. And then five, asking myself about the worst case scenario. What is the worst? That could happen. [00:10:00] Okay. Those are the five strategies that I used. There's lots of other ones. There's lots of ways you can do this, but these are five that have proved to be the most useful for me, so I wanted to share them with all of you.

Okay, so let me talk about each of these. So first strategy, like I said, is about prioritizing your core values. Okay? So this is not just about a. Recognizing what your core values are, but it is also about prioritizing them. So if you do not know what your core values are, if that's a hard question for you to answer, or you can't really like rattle that off, no problem.

A lot of people can't. And that's absolutely fine. I have a resource for you. I'll drop it in the comments section after, um, this live is over and I've got. Podcast episodes about it. I have lots of resources to help you, but I cannot stress enough how [00:11:00] valuable, no pun intended. It is to know what your core values and needs are.

Okay? This works wonders in terms of work-life balance and and time management, but I know what my core values are, and sometimes what I will do when I make a decision is what I will want to do is ignore those values, overlook them. Or think about them and like try to talk myself into how this decision could be in alignment with those values, right?

So I just notice that when that's happening, but I, I know what my core values are, and then I'll ask myself, how does this decision align with my core values and how does it conflict with my core values? So. And to be clear here, alignment doesn't necessarily mean that it's a yes or a no. [00:12:00] Like it doesn't, this is not where you stop.

It's not like you run it through your core values and say, oh yeah, all these, you know, this decision. If I go with, if I buy the dog, if we get the dog, it aligns with my values. So that's a yes. No, no. It's just information that I have that I like put down in my. Mind or on paper. So I'm like, okay, that's one piece of this.

It aligns with these values, right? Similarly, if this decision does, if it conflicts with some of your values, that doesn't necessarily mean it's an automatic no, but it means that further thought and, um, consideration really needs to go into the decision. You have to understand what the trade offs are because there's always a trade off.

So with the puppy. Right, whose name is Tanner, by the way, time is one of my core values. It is absolutely one of my biggest values. And if I'm following my procedure, [00:13:00] right, having a puppy, getting a puppy demands a lot of time, it's going to infringe upon my time, right? It's going to mean that I'm gonna have to now take more of my time and put it towards the puppy, right?

Denying that or trying to avoid that is not gonna make that go away. So if we are continuing to just stick our head in the sand and be like, oh, I didn't think of that. I got the puppy, but I didn't really think how it was gonna affect my time, even though time's very important to me, that's not doing me or anybody else any favors.

So you have to look at the alignment. And really consider how is this decision going to affect those values? So that is one way that, like that was one consideration that I made was getting a puppy will limit my time. It will for sure. There's no way around that. Okay. And [00:14:00] so that was pause for me to think really carefully about this decision because then when I make the decision, let's say I.

Buy the puppy, which spoiler alert we did. Let's say we buy the puppy and I need to recognize that I'm going to have less time and not just recognize that, but come to peace with that, strategize through it, work through it, and recognize that that's gonna be something that I'm gonna have to like counteract.

Okay, so ask yourself. When you're making a decision, which core values does this decision align with, and how much do those core values matter right now? Okay, so that's the first one. Core values. Uh, one other thing I'll say about this is it's possible that you have other core values. I, I come up with, I have five, right?

Roughly. I like [00:15:00] to have my clients have roughly five, identify five core values. I have four other core values, and the puppy might align with some of those values. So it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to align with all of the values or conflict with all of the values, but you need to address and figure out which it is for each value, right?

And then use that information to make your decision. Okay, so that's. Core values. How does this decision align with or conflict with my core values? Second strategy is a cost benefit analysis, so I'm not a finance person. At all. But I use what, like my version of a cost benefit analysis. I use this a lot, like a lot, a lot.

And it's quick. Like for some things, for a big decision like this, it's a longer consideration, but for other decisions too, little micro decisions, I will sometimes work through a [00:16:00] very quick cost benefit analysis. And I was talking about this recently with a coaching client and. She was saying, well, like what is that exactly?

And I started to try to explain it and I was like, well, it's sort of like a pros and cons list, but it's a little bit different. So I wanna try and explain that to you here so that you have an idea of what I mean and how this can help you. So. When you are looking at the cost and doing a cost benefit analysis, when we're looking at the cost of a decision, what is it going to take from you?

Like, what are you going to have to give up or what are you going to have to put in in order for you to move forward with this decision? So costs. Could be financial certainly, but they're [00:17:00] also energetic. Emotional. There's a time cost, right? There's a physical cost. There's a cost on your relationships, so you need to look at what is this going to cost me if I do this right?

Well, I'm not just gonna have to spend more time with the dog and taking care of the dog, but that's gonna require energy. Right. I am gonna have to be, it's gonna require patience because he's going to be getting into things he's not supposed to. He is gonna chew things. He is gonna go to the bathroom in the house.

So that's gonna cost me my sort of like cleanliness and organization, right? So I'm looking at what are the different costs of this. Also, like I said, four kids, nine and under another dog already. Like it's a chaotic household for sure. Our house is quite. Noisy and chaotic between the hours of, let's say 6:00 AM and 8:00 [00:18:00] AM and then again from let's say, 3:00 PM to maybe 8:00 PM.

So knowing that I'm adding that into the mix, that's gonna cost me some sanity, that's gonna cost me some stress. Right. It's gonna create some stress. So laying that out and then looking at the benefits, like what is the potential gain from this? What's the potential or guaranteed reward from this? So, all right.

Benefits in this case, it's that connection that I have with the puppy, which like, it would sort of like just, I, I can't describe it. It was, it's, there's that benefit there of like that sort of relationship between. Dog owner and dog benefit would be giving the kids opportunities for independence and, um, you know, taking more responsibility for what's going on.

Um, we have the older dog and everyone says, oh, well, you know, the [00:19:00] younger dog will bring the older dog like back to life. It'll just get him like going and, and it'll fill his bucket. That's not exactly how. I have perceived it, but that's another story, right? So looking at what is the reward from doing this, and if you want to apply this to, let's say, writing a report.

'cause that's, that's a frequently coached topic. What is the cost of doing this report? What's the cost of not doing this report? Right. Like that was, that's another piece of the puzzle is I'll often ask, um, coaching clients, well, okay, what's, if they're making a decision, what is, what is it gonna cost you to do this Again, not just financial and also what's it potentially, what might it cost you to not do this?

And looking at that trade off. Right, and you have to weigh what's the short term cost versus the long term cost. What's the short [00:20:00] term cost on energy versus the long term cost on energy? And same thing with with benefit. So I know, okay, short term he'll, it's gonna be a lot of energy and time and patience, but as he gets older, less so.

For sure. So just looking at it from that angle, right? What's the cost of writing this report right now? Well, it's probably gonna be uncomfortable or painful or annoying or frustrating for you to do this. It's gonna cost you time, it's gonna cost you energy. It's gonna cost you, you know, maybe you had planned to do something else, something more fun.

It's gonna make, maybe cost you some time with your in, in a relationship or what have you, right? If you're working on your report, you're not working on something else. So maybe it, it, the cost is that today you don't get to cook dinner, you're getting takeout, right? So like, what's the cost of writing the report?

What's the cost of not writing the report? What's, then maybe it's, you know, more stress. It's on your mind for [00:21:00] longer. It's less fresh in your mind. So when you go to write the report later, it's harder. It takes you longer. And then what's the benefit of writing the report right now? Well, the benefit is you get it off your mind.

The benefit is it's off your to-do list. The benefit is, um, it, you get it to the family or the supervisor, whoever needs it quicker. Like, what is that benefit for you? Okay. All right. Third strategy, like I said before, is making sure you have the information you need. And I've got a like juicy little spin on this that I've realized.

As I was making another big decision in our life actually is like, what information do you need? I'll, I'll share the juicy piece in a second, but what information do you need in order to make the decision? I, we own a dog, so I'm very familiar with what it goes into that, right. All that's involved. But my, I'm just grabbing my phone 'cause the [00:22:00] alarm's gonna go off, but the, um.

The someone who doesn't have a dog or is not familiar with that, they need to know that information, right? You need to know what's involved in having a dog so that you can go into it knowingly and you can, or, or you can make the informed decision, right? Um, so having that information ahead of time and for the neurodivergent brain.

Sometimes you have to start by figuring out the information that you need. What information do I need? Because sometimes we don't even know what that is, and we have to figure that, figure that out. Right? Um, so a lot and a lot of times, if we're indecisive. A lot of times it's coming from missing information.

Well, I can't make a decision on this because I don't know yet. If I cancel this appointment, I don't know if I'm gonna be able to [00:23:00] reschedule it like in a week or if I'm gonna have to reschedule it in a year, and that's information I need to know in order to make this decision right. Ask yourself, what do I know?

What do I still need to know? So with the puppy, I knew what the demands were. I needed to know that my husband was truly on board. That was like a whole thing, right? I also wanted to consider contingency plans. Like, okay, what is this gonna require in terms of support or help? You know, what if it doesn't go well?

We're gonna talk about that in a minute, right? So. This is doing your research, but you have to make sure that when you're doing your research, it's intentional. This is where we get, we run the risk of getting stuck in analysis paralysis, because sometimes we wanna just ask ourselves a million more questions to figure it out.

And it's like, no, no, no, no. Like there's gonna be a point where you [00:24:00] have to decide what information do you actually need versus what information do you want? And getting very clear on that. And where I landed, here's the, like the little juicy twist where I landed was with this thought. I have all the information I need.

To make this decision and I have all the information that I could possibly have in order to make this decision, the information, any information that I like, still need, that my brain is telling me, no, you still need to know this. You still need to know that like any of that information cannot be obtained until after the decision is made.

So what do I mean by that? One of the things I wanted to know was, is this going to be a mistake? Like, is this dog gonna be crazy, wild, [00:25:00] and just like ruin this house and just be a total menace? Right. Well, I'm not gonna really know that until after the fact. Like I just won't know. I won't know if it's the right decision until afterwards.

I won't know how he's gonna interact with the older dog. We did a like a little. Play date thing. I brought 'em home one day and I saw them interact, but that's like a drop in the bucket. That was a little snippet. I don't know how they're gonna react or interact together long term. So the information that I still wanted before making the decision was only information I could get after making the decision.

And that is a really important distinction to keep in mind when you're going through that decision making process. Okay. All right. Fourth strategy is to notice the tension. And get curious about it. So when you are stuck or when you're feeling uneasy or unsure about a [00:26:00] decision, notice that what's happening in your mind.

What thoughts are going through your brain? What's happening physically? Like where do you feel that tension? How does it show up in your body, in your mood, in your mind, right? Noticing it and then instead of ignoring it. Like, shove it down, don't have time for that, blah, blah, blah. Right? Instead of that, get curious about it.

What exactly am I thinking? What exactly am I afraid of? This question is so important because it brings your sort of subconscious fears up and out into the open so that then you can use your rational brain and engage with those fears and like talk yourself through it. But when we keep it. Stuffed down and try to keep our head in the sand and avoid it.

We're not doing anybody any favors because it's still there. And sometimes, almost always, it's stuff that we have to actually work through, but we don't because we're like, oh, [00:27:00] I'm afraid it's gonna tell me something I don't like. I, if I look at this and see why I'm getting so frustrated or so upset, I feel like it's gonna reveal something about me or about my life that I don't want, I'd rather avoid.

Right. Ask yourself how that might be true for you. And then once you have that tension out and into the open, then you can work through it. And identify it. What do I wanna do about it? So I'll be totally honest and transparent. The tension that was coming up for me, one of the pieces of tension, like one part of this was what are people gonna think and remember, like I said at the start of today, today's Facebook Live is.

The goal in this, the goal in coaching and the goal in in this, these strategies of making decisions is not so that you never worry about stuff like that. It's that. So when you worry. You can work through it much quicker and you know, okay, this is, this is, nothing has gone [00:28:00] wrong here. This is just like how my brain operates.

What are people gonna think? And then I can work through that very quickly. Okay, well, they may think this, they may think that it's none of my business what they think. It doesn't matter what they think. What they think says more about them than it says about me. They're not the ones that have the dog. I have the dog Only I know what this, what the right decision is.

I'm the one who has to. To live with the decision, right? Like all of that. So, and if we keep staying stuck because we're afraid of what people are gonna think, that removes my agency, that removes my autonomy, my agency, and that, that freedom, that agency is one of my core values. So see how these all sort of interplay together?

Okay? So notice that tension and get curious about it. It doesn't always mean that you shouldn't make that decision or like that. You should decide yes, or you should decide no or whatever. Just notice it. It's gonna give you [00:29:00] information, okay? And then the fit strategy, which is always helpful. I think for me it's, um, especially for those who have an A DHD brain where we can sometimes catastrophize things and we go like a thousand steps ahead of where we're at.

Right? Where we're at right now is what is the worst that can happen. Like sometimes just asking that in a coaching session. If, when I ask my coaching clients that what usually happens is they'll say something totally extreme. Like, I, I'm just thinking of horrible things right now with this, with this example, with a puppy, and I can't.

But like, I guess what's the worst that could happen is, um, it doesn't work out and we have to give them back. We have to like get rid of the dog or we have him and it's an awful experience with our older dog, and it's a mistake. And now I'm st. I feel stuck, right? But sometimes when we ask [00:30:00] that question, like the Oh, so then it's looking at how likely is that and what would you do about it if it happened, and is that risk worth the potential benefit?

Right, because with every decision comes risk. Sometimes it's little small risk, sometimes it's huge risk, but we need to be honest with ourselves about that and really recognize. What is the worst that can happen? How likely is it that that would happen? What would I do if that happened? And just like naming that and putting that out there for me at least, has always been so cathartic and has been, has felt so much better than trying to squash down and like avoid thinking about the worst case scenario or thinking about the worst case scenario, but not actually.

Working through it, just ruminating [00:31:00] on it. Right? Neither of those ha feel good for me. I doubt they feel good for you either. So this helps you regain your perspective. It reduces that fear-based avoidance, right? And you are just honestly answering it. It's calming you down and it's information so. If and when you are making a decision, consider what would you, what is the worst that could happen, and what would you actually do if that happened?

Think about it. Okay. All right. So to recap, I know this is a longer Facebook Live, but to recap those five strategies for you, um, and then we will wrap this up, but very quickly, number one is look at your core values and. Address or assess whether this decision aligns, like which values does it align with?

Which values does it conflict with? Second strategy is doing that real, honest cost benefit [00:32:00] analysis, slightly different from pros and cons. Third strategy is making sure you have all the information that you need, and being very intentional about gathering that information, not using that as an avoidance tactic.

Okay. Number four is noticing any tension and getting curious about it, exploring it, and then number five, asking and answering what is the worst that can happen. Okay. One little bonus tip that I'll throw in there for you, just overall, I've been reflecting on this too lately, is. I, I know from personal experience and coaching clients that we can get stuck in this indecisiveness over the most trivial things.

Sometimes, like sometimes we are overthinking the smallest decisions. Like, what do I wear today? What am I wearing today? What am I gonna have for lunch? Ooh, a big one for B, like the stupidest decision that I get stuck in is, is when I finally sit [00:33:00] down to watch a show or something. What do I feel like watching?

Like that's where my A DHD will show up a lot. Or I'll start like looking at trailers and I'll like hop around all over. And then next thing you know, the time has gone by and I'm like, I didn't even watch anything. This is a waste, right? So we often get stuck in the stupidest, most meaningless minute decisions.

And the cost of that is that when we have to make those big decisions, we have less bandwidth than we need in order to do it. So. What I have, have started to do over the years is I've identified for me, which are the big decisions and which are the small decisions, and I decide once for as many of the small decisions as I can to just alleviate that brain space and free up my time, my energy, my brain for the big decisions that actually matter and only you.[00:34:00] 

Can identify what actually matters. Someone's big decisions might be your little decisions and vice versa. There is no right or wrong there. It's, but it's up to you to decide what are the things that actually matter to you and that are worth really thinking through and what are the decisions that quite frankly, just aren't worth it.

So. I, when I get dressed every day, I work from home, which is lovely. It's a treat for sure, but I like, I just wear whatever. I don't overthink something like that, right? I still overthink the Netflix thing. I have to work on that, but I try to decide once. And very easily, like teacher gifts or, I don't know, gifts comes up a lot for me.

So, uh, if I'm getting teachers for the gifts, I have four kids, four teachers with like paras and aides or whatever, right? I'm like, okay, all the teachers are getting this gift. It's simple. It's easy because for me, that I could get stuck in that overthinking for sure, like [00:35:00] endlessly. So, but I don't, I don't want to spend my energy and bandwidth on that.

I wanna spend it on what I say in the note that is, to me, is more meaningful, right? So you get to decide what decisions or which decisions are little and which ones are big, but conserve your energy for the big decisions and don't waste your energy on the little ones. Okay? Alright. Wrapping up. Whoever needs a mindset shift or a reframe.

Indecision is part of everyone's life, but it is a choice that you are making. Okay? So take the time that you need to make the decisions that matter to you, but use that time purposely, purposefully, I guess I should say, right? Not stalling. Use it intentionally, and if you can simplify decisions, even big ones like this.

You, if you start doing this, you will get better and better at it. And I promise you it happens quicker and [00:36:00] quicker. And then once you make that decision, it's less second guessing because I'm like, no, I've decided this is it. Okay, one more thing that I'll say. I'm sorry I'm like all over the place today, but another thing that I think is is gonna be really helpful for you too, if anyone is still listening is.

One thing that will often happen after you make a decision, even when you use these strategies and make an informed decision that you feel good about, sometimes after the fact, there will be doubts, there will be, uh, questioning, um, there might even be like moments of regret, right? When you run these decisions through this protocol.

And that stuff starts happening. Usually that regret or that doubt is not meaningful. It's not valid. [00:37:00] Usually that's your non-logical or non-rational brain. It's like this, the primitive brain that's talking there, and I go back to all the reasons that led to this decision, and then I sell myself on it.

Whenever I have to, this is not gaslighting. This is not like, oh, I truly know that. Even though I did those five strategies, I truly know this is the wrong decision for me, but I'm just gonna tell myself it's the right one and smile. That's different. That's not what I'm talking about, but it is trusting in your ability.

To have made that DEC made the best decision for you because you went through, and I'll return, sometimes I'll return to what information I came up with. What were the costs that I recognized and the benefits that I recognized? What was the worst case scenario? Like what, how did this align with my values?

Right? To just remind my logical brain of that, because it's very easy to forget it, and then I [00:38:00] sell myself on that decision in those moments of doubt. And I'm smiling 'cause I'm thinking of my husband. 'cause I remember like, and we got the dog in January and when I, um, afterwards, you know, like, and there's like the honeymoon phase and everything sort of feels like, oh, this is great.

And then there's those moments where he's like, pooping on the rug. And I'm like, duh, what did we do? Right? And my husband is like, Ooh, do, do, like, I think we made a mistake. And like he'll just joke around. He's not. Serious about that, but he'll be like, oh yeah, I think, I think this was the wrong decision.

And that what I said to him was like, listen, it's done. We made the decision. We went through all the reasons now. If we tell ourselves, if, like, if we choose that thought of this was a mistake, or this was the wrong decision, or we shouldn't have done that, we're not doing anybody any favors. We had our [00:39:00] reasons.

We stand by our reasons, and so now we have to just direct our brain and our attention towards those reasons, the reasons why we made this decision. So get on board, and the more that you can get yourself on board, the easier it is. To, to make peace with that decision. So if that helps anyone, I hope it helps anyone.

It's definitely helped me. Um, it's, it's useful for me internally when I start to, you know, when shit happens quite literally, right? Like, okay, yeah, this moment sucks. But overall, this is the decision that I wanted to make and, and it feels good. Even when I'm scrubbing the rug, cleaning it, right? So I hope that this was helpful.

You want help more, help with this. If this is something you wanna just learn more about how you can do this work for yourself, or you want someone to partner with you to implement these strategies and make this more of a, [00:40:00] of a habit and just sort of a natural thing that you do, you can book a call. I'll tell you how I can help.

I'll put the link in the comments as always. Drop any questions you have, any challenges, any key takeaways, anything, anything share here in the comments. Let me know how I can support you, and I will see you all tomorrow for another Facebook Live on Time Authority. Not sure exactly when or where or what we're talking about yet, but I will be showing up.

All right, I'll see you then.